We'd love you to meet Greer, mother of three and business owner, living about an hour outside Sydney. Today she chats with Jodi about discovering that she was carrying twins, being a single mum and creating a new home for her family. As always, unedited and 'off the cuff' just as honest, heartfelt conversations should be.
Greer Worsleymother, blogger, and business owner | typically red shop
---Jodi: Hello there
Greer: Hi Jodi!
How are you? Honestly...
Hmm...I'm OK. It's been a crazy week and I'm a bit frazzled, to be truthful. But all in all, all things considered, beyond all the crazy, I'm good. Thank you for asking!
How's your new home?
It's fabulous! It's tiny and a bit rough around the edges. But it's mine and I love it. The momentum of getting the keys and getting the place ready to move in, which was intense, has kind of been lost now, and I look around at all there is to be done. But there's no rush. We'll be here for a while, I hope. It's nice to have that certainty and stability at the moment. And the girls are loving it here.
If I have certainty and stability in my life I'm ok.....change and the unknown rattles me
Oh, I'm good with change. An expert!
haha. How is life in your part of the world? (so beautiful down there)...
It's beautiful. I am so glad we made the move out of Sydney. We kind of fell into this village - I had been looking at one of the larger towns nearby - but we've found an amazing community, incredible, creative people, a beautiful little school, the best coffee in the region...and instead of jumbo jets keeping me awake at night, I lie in bed listening to the cows across the road. Did you know cows made so much noise at night time?
Yes, but like they're in conversation.
They probably sound better than the screeching possums outside my window each night
Oh, no, we have those too. They tap-dance on the roof.
Country cacophony How are the girls?
They are actually really well. It's been a tumultuous year for them and they've handled things amazingly.
Do the twins really rely on each other or are the three girls a tight little team?
It varies. When Lola is at school, Pearl and Stella are absolute besties, but when Lola's home, Stella follows her around like a little puppy dog. Thank goodness for Stella, actually, she's such an easygoing little thing, which balances the intensity of her twin perfectly. They are really so much fun, all three of them. They would defend each other to the ends of the earth, yet just try and get them all to perform a dance together - there's absolutely no cooperation, they all want the spotlight!
Pearl is so like Lola, everyone says they're the twins, separated by a couple of years.
Fascinating. What is it like to be a mother of twins....do people always ask you about it? (like I'm doing right now!)
Always always always.
It's been a hell of a ride. I was really excited when I found out I was pregnant with twins and I new a woman at the time who had 6-month-old twins - when I told her my news, she went a bit green and I could see her trying to be enthusiastic for me and failing! Now I know why.
Oh gosh, what a reaction! Daniel thinks we'll have twins. His intuition is usually spot on.
Well, my recommendation to everyone is that if you're going to have twins, have them first. I think the biggest challenge was having a toddler as well. Poor Lola, she got a bit of a raw deal in those early months.
Hmmm, bit late for me now
It was amazing how many people told me they'd always wanted twins. Friends I'd known a lifetime, people on the street. It never entered my mind until I saw those two little heartbeats.
What was it like - seeing those two heartbeats?
I think I knew. I'd had a really early scan at 6 weeks because of a previous ectopic pregnancy. That scan showed two sacs but only one had a heartbeat. The ultrasound person told me that two eggs may have been fertilised but only one had survived. But I think I knew. Sure enough, two weeks later, two sacs, two heartbeats. And now two cheeky four-year-olds.
How do you balance it all - work, motherhood, a knitting business? cheeky 4 year olds...
Balance? Ha! I don't. I run like crazy all through the week doing school runs and swimming lessons, working on preschool days, trying to keep the washing pile down and fruit in the fruit bowl. Then at the end of the week the girls go to their dad and I collapse for two seconds, then I get up and work, work, work till they come home again. Thank goodness for the knitting - that's how I relax!
Single parenting...really, how do you do it?
I'm still working that one out. And there's not a lot I can say at the moment because I'm still in the trenches of the divorce. But in my heart of hearts, and deep in my bones, I believe single parenting has got to be easier than the alternative - being in a bad marriage, being inauthentic, being unable to reach your potential or even be yourself. I get to be me now, and I can tell you I'm a far better mother now, a far better friend. I'm far more relaxed, I'm more fun to be around. There's still a mountain to climb, but we're going to be fine. I was raised by an incredible single mother, you know.
powerful words, Greer. Strong words, determined ones
You don't make the choice I made without doing some big thinking first.
and some brave decision making, I imagine
Terrifying decision making.
Do you feel like you've exhaled now?
Oh, absolutely. People tell me I look 'lighter'. I remember my sister saying to me on the phone I sounded 'lighter'.
I'm so happy for you
Thank you. That's nice to hear. So many people get that sad, concerned sympathy face when you tell them.
I am smiling here Back to the house - what's it like? Old and nostalgic? I imagine it's got character...
It's just a little weatherboard shack on a quarter acre block. But it was meant to be mine, Jodi! I had been looking at the ad for weeks and never quite got around to calling the agent. Then one day I noticed it was open for inspection so I went along fully expecting and hoping it would be horrible. And...it kind of was. But I couldn't stop thinking about it. The owner had done nothing to prepare it for sale, it was grotty and there were spider webs everywhere. Then I came back the following week with a friend and her words were what spurred me on to do it - she said that if it were her she'd be really excited about it. So I got really excited about it. Then things fell into place, useful people came out of the woodwork to help. Someone's husband was a building inspector, a dear old friend is a mortgage maestro.
serendipity and now it's yours
When I finally got the keys, I had 2 and a half weeks to get the place painted before we moved in. I'm a big under estimator and I thought it would be a breeze. I was wrong. But incredible friends in the village came to help. They were here painting when I couldn't be here. I was in Sydney celebrating my birthday, and over breakfast I received a text message saying a friend was babysitting my kids that night so that I could paint - and her husband was coming to help. I cried into my soy latte that morning.
your southern highlands village - literally and metaphorically
Absolutely! Aren't people amazing? And people in the country, they're amazing AND useful!!!
and they make jam!
They know which end of the hammer to hold.
ha! always handy what are your plans for the house?
At the moment I just want to finish the painting - windows and doors, ergh. But eventually I'll put in a new kitchen and bathroom. And I want to rip out the old garage and build a studio/guest bedroom. In the meantime I'll work on the garden - I'm picturing raised vege beds in old apple crates, chickens, maybe an apple tree or two. Before I bought the place I had a really strong image of sitting in a backyard studio working away at my business (that of course is so successful by then that I've been able to quite my day job), gazing out at the chickens scratching around in the garden.
And pictures on the walls! I'm going to finally put pictures on the walls!
it sounds perfect, Greer. How wonderful that you get to create such a scene with your girls It always takes me ages to put pictures on the walls...
I've got the pictures. I've got the frames. It seems so simple!
why don't you do it tomorrow, surprise the girls when they come back
on that note... happy picture frame hanging
Thanks for chatting, Greer. You're inspiring
Awww... Thank you! You're lovely.
Take care. Hope the cows aren't too loud tonight!
Ha! Nighty night.
All images courtesy of: Greer Worsley